In the therapy, I am working holistically, which implies that I am interested in and curious about your thoughts, feelings and bodily experience. The holistic approach helps you to be aware and to integrate – in short: to find, experience and feel more meaning, clarity and vigour in your life.
One of my primary tools as a therapist is a finely tuned attention. This implies being aware of what is going on, and recognising the thoughts and emotions that arise. You might compare it with finding your way by means of a map: Only if you know where you are will the map be of any use. When we combine your own and my awareness, I can help you to find your personal growing edges and build upon them. For example it is very common to avoid unpleasant feelings by becoming lost in thought and not really being present in the now. This can be very useful on the short term, but often at the cost of blocking a lot of emotional energy.
Moreover, it is of primary importance to stand by yourself – for example to acknowledge your feelings and to realise that it you who are experiencing these valid feelings, even if they might not fit into your accustomed image of yourself. This might inspire you to change your self-concept, which again might open up for further development.
It is not my task as a therapist to judge what is a “good”, “normal” or “bad” way to be a human being. These are decisions which only you can make as ever more informed choices as you get to know yourself better, both in the therapy sessions and in your daily life. My objective is that you through the increased insight in yourself can choose to change to the extent and in the pace that suits your wants. Thus I have the deep-rooted conviction that you are 100% allowed to be the person you are, at any moment. I take your thought, your behaviour and your feelings at face value, and through an involved, direct and respectful dialogue I support you in accepting all aspects of yourself. This enables you to make all life’s small and large choices – including the choice to change because you want to, not because you must.